Boundaries

I don’t know about y’all, but I get really, really, really, really, really…
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really, really, really, really, REALLY EXCITED when I express a personal boundary healthily!
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I mean like… OVER THE MOON excited.
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Because for YEARS I had literally ZERO boundaries.
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Here’s an example:

During one of my social work classes at UT Austin, my professor chose two students to demonstrate physical boundary differences between humans. She chose me & another very quiet girl. We were to walk towards each other until we felt uncomfortable & stop… I kept walking & the girl, who I actually liked, & was on kind, yet minimal, speaking terms with did a full halt with a backup and a verbal, “oh no no no, that’s it for me…”
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I stopped & the teacher said, “So ‘Susan’ has a very rigid, very large boundary.”
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She came up close to me until her mouth was almost touching my cheek & I didn’t even FLINCH… (I was only 8 months sober at this point, mind you 😂) and she says:
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“And Freedom has literally no boundaries whatsoever…”
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THAT day began my journey into BOUNDARIES, needless to say… 😂
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They became large, maybe even larger than Susan’s… & SUPER rigid. I started to cut myself off from the world.
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There were a lot of traumas that impacted both versions of boundaries, & both were there in an effort to give me the illusion of safety.
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So it’s taken MANY YEARS, to find a fluid level of boundaries.
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Not just my OWN boundaries, but recognizing other’s boundaries & honoring them as well.
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So these days, when I erect a verbal boundary & I do it with authority & yet with love… I AM SO PROUD of my progress & how much I have grown!
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And HOLY SHIFT it is SO COOL to feel that level of pride at my hard work!!!
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What are you proud of within yourself today?
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What have you grown into that is begging for your recognition & praise of Self?
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Because we are SO WORTHY of being our own cheerleaders!!
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& I’d love to hear & cheer for you, too, if you drop a comment below, or DM me!
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Yours in Oneness🧡Freedom
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